Yes, just like that, I was bombarded with the question I’ve been dreading. The one question I wouldn’t know how to answer because it was one thing I couldn’t give her at this very moment. I’ll set the scene for you. There I was putting Amra in bed after a very exhausting day. Amra looks at me curiously and I ignore this and continue tucking her in.
Amra: Mommy, can I have a sister?
Me: Excuse me?
Amra: Hannah has a sister and Noah has a sister, so can I have a sister.
Me: Don’t you want a pony instead?
(Please note: reasoning with a 3 year old, correction, reasoning with my 3 year old is like reasoning with a brick wall)
Me (telling her calmly): Babes, I can buy you a diamond, a horse or a freaking carnival (okay, I may have exaggerated on all of these) but a baby sister is something mommy can’t get you at this moment. As much as I would love too, a baby sister, isn’t on the gift list right now it seems…
Amra (sobs): you’re breaking my heart!!!
*end of discussion*
With all due respect to my daughter, I know where she’s coming from. Kids in her class come with their siblings and parents to school events. For us, it’s just me, her and my parents; totally different picture but a happy one nonetheless. Wanting siblings is normal. I have two that I can’t imagine my life without.
Being a single mom, I’m prepared for anything, anything I can afford to get/buy her. Part of me does feel guilty that while I’m focused on her and my career, my party business and my fashion show, I do owe her a white picket fence lifestyle. I love kids and would love more but I do also feel that if it’s not in the cards, then it’s not.
Am i wrong? Any other parents experiencing this? How do you handle it?